Uncertainty, the feeling of not being sure what to do, what decision to make or direction to take, can lead to anxiety. If you don’t handle anxiety, calm yourself down in the heat of the moment, you are technically abandoning yourself. You can learn to handle anxiety rising from uncertainty.
Recall a time when you were uncertain, not sure what to do, what decision to make or direction to take. See the situation as being on a teeter totter. Each time you weigh in on one choice, one side of the teeter totter lowers to the ground. But then, maybe you should choose the other way, so the other foot lowers to the ground.
When your mind acts like a teeter totter, have it visualize being on a physical teeter totter. Feel your body balancing side to side, or actually mimic the movement of a teeter totter by shifting your weight from side to side. Once you can feel the teeter totter movement, visualize lowering one end to the ground, stepping off and following that choice. Do the same in the moment. Choose one direction and follow it.
This is where ambiguity comes in. Choosing one direction to follow doesn’t mean it is the right or wrong decision. Life is complex, can be read and interpreted in many ways. Great literature teaches us that life is ambiguous at best. Ambiguity will help you learn as you go, unfold an experience as it arises. Uncertainty, on the other hand, leads to anxiety.
When the mind acts like a teeter totter, have it visualize being on a physical teeter totter, instead. Feel the teeter totter movement in the body, visualize lowering one side to the ground, stepping off and following that direction. Be open to the ambiguity of life. It will make sense by and by.